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I love MS Word.

This love comes out because I just endured several days of Mac people bashing MS / pc people as if the Apple world is divine.

Apple World is good. Sometimes it’s even great. Divine? Nyah.

Try 25 years with MS Word.

First “computer” I ever used for word processing had DOS. Remember DOS? DIR to find your files. C: and the blinking cursor on a black screen. Yeah. Those days.

Then came Windows! And the world never looked back.

I’ve used MS Word about 25 years and changed as it changed. Mac, didn’t love so much in the early days. Once I shifted to pc, I never returned to Mac (except for the iPhone, which I hate for its planned obsolescence [which intuitive spelling keeps changing to “insolence”—is that telling me something?] and box-tight control of what it wants me to do.)
Over the years with Microsoft and other electronic devices I learned to avoid the shiny new and wait for later iterations. I avoided Vista and all of its crashes. Since I had to buy a new system around ‘10, I jumped past that issue. Not having Vista on the system prevented the crashes that most people had with it that continued to 8.
I also learned, from watching people trying to bring work from home that wasn’t compatible with the work software programs as well as listening to people complain, that anything labeled “Home” wasn’t worth the price. I’ve purchased professional- or work-level software from that point.

You get what you pay for.

Last year, with all the viruses and malware and ransom ware and more that was going on, I took a hard look at keeping my security and programs updated. That’s the primary reason that I subscribed to Windows Office 365. I didn’t want the constant hassle.
I’m not a lover of any big corporate entity. I hate monopolies. I hate algorithms that try to shove me into one box when I’ve got fingers in 10 different ones and toes into a few others. But MS treats its products and customers professionally, and that’s what I want. (And I certainly don’t want any entity adding things I didn’t ask for—the way Apple added that U2 album without my permission to iTunes on my computer.)
I can make Word and PowerPoint do pretty much everything I ask them to do. It’s easy to flip between the programs using the task bar at the bottom of the screen. I lust after those widescreen monitors that allow two screens (3! even) to be open at once. But I’m too thrifty to add the monitor when my magnified glasses and laptop work fine
Remember Windows Loved that program. Loved the mouse interface that beat keyboard commands (CTRL + C). Loved the advent of wysiwyg printers (what you see is what you get).

Change is always happening. Who said that? Herodotus?

Okay. Rant over. Only it’s more like the homily for the day. 🙂

Living in Joy the Marie Kondo Way

How to Find Joy rather than Oppression from your Possessions

Last year I sold my house, moved over a hundred of miles away from where I had lived and worked all my life.  I did it to spark joy every day of my life.

I moved to be with people I loved.  In moving closer to them, I no longer needed a multi-bedroom house so they would have a comfortable place when they came to visit.

I loved my little house, I truly did, but I needed to downsize.  I did, by about 1,000 square feet.

In the months before my move, I anticipated that need to downsize.  I slowly began, one closet at a time.  However, on moving day, I still had a lot of possessions, many more than I needed.

As my nephew Nate said, “You’ve got a lot of stuff.  A lot of stuff.”

And not in a good way.

I had discarded possessions before.

The first time followed my father’s death.  Not many of the things he accumulated were discarded because my mother found it so difficult.  We gifted a lot of things to family who wanted mementos or needed items, donated other things, and just tucked the remainder away.

But at the time of my move, I still had his award plaques and special belt buckles and pipes for smoking tobacco (even though smoking contributed mightily to his death).

The second time followed my mother’s death.  I followed her procedure:  gifts to family, donations, tucking away others–but downsizing required me to be ruthless.  Yet I still found things I couldn’t let go of.

Many, many items had memories attached–but how many memories through items do I need?  I remember my parents every day;  I miss them terribly–but how many things do I need to remind me of them?  Do I need any thing at all to remember them?

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Even as I tell myself this, I still had these things.

Then, my former workplace wanted to give me a token that represented my job.  The token had no real use.  It would take up space.  I certainly wasn’t going to display it.  A token wasn’t necessary to remember 30 years of hard, stress-inducing work.  Happy times over those years certainly didn’t need a token to be remembered.

So, because I was struggling with downsizing, I refused the token, thereby offending the person in charge of the giving of the token.  Oops.

That kept things from coming into the house, but I had many, many more things to discard.  I needed help.

Enter Marie Kondo’s Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up

Now, I know how to tidy.  My mother had this ability down and imparted her wisdom to me and my sister.  But Marie Kondo’s book is about decluttering your life.

Decluttering!  That’s what I needed!

Let me boil her process down to 9 crucial insights plus one that comes from another lady who understands what is essential.

Insight 1.

“The best way to find out what we really need is to get rid of what we don’t [need].”

How much stuff have you crammed into corners?  How many times have you said, “I have to get rid of this junk”?  If you call those possessions stuff and junk that you cram in, do you really care for it?  Do you need it?

Okay, I had that one, no biggie.  But I know many people who struggle with this.  After all, I had two practice sessions, but I still had trouble discarding my own possessions.

Insight 2.

Here’s Marie Kondo’s epiphany:  “I had been so focused on what to discard, on attacking the obstacles around me, that I had forgotten to cherish the things that I loved, the things that I wanted to keep.”

Wow.  Just–wow!

This is me, with so many things that I needed to get rid of that I forgot to pay attention to the possessions that I really loved.

Is this you?  Have you crowded too much into your life?  Discard what you don’t need and don’t love.

But how do you decide between what you really love and what you just like?  I mean, my likes are pretty powerful or they wouldn’t still be in the house.

Insight 3.

“Imagine your ideal lifestyle to prevent relapse.”

My ideal lifestyle does not use plastic butter tubs to hold leftovers.  My ideal lifestyle does not keep books related to work.  And my ideal lifestyle is not focused on accumulating more and more:  I want to do and be more and more.

What do I have that gives beauty to my life?  And what do I just have?  It’s nice and all, but it doesn’t reinforce the world I want.

If you have dreamed of a life without clutter, without stuff, without things crammed everywhere, resolve now to change.  I resolved because I wanted to downsize.  Kondo’s lessons, however, hit me where I live [pun intended, but not as a pun 😉 ].

How do we imagine this?

Curiously enough, one of the first steps is to visualize your closets, your pantry, your dresser drawers without all the stuff.

Determine what you really need before you attack the clutter.  Think and work by category:  accumulated winter outerwear then accumulated winter shirts and blouses, not winter clothes.  When you pull out all of the similar items (winter jackets), you see what you have and realize what you don’t need and can discard.

Insight 4.

Marie Kondo says, “Keep only those things that speak to your heart.  Then take the plunge and discard the rest.  By doing this, you can reset your life and embark on a new lifestyle.”

From clothes, move to kitchen items (utensils then pots/pans then storage containers then extra plates/dishes and glasses, etc.), then those things stored in the bathroom.  The laundry next, including the linen closet.  Junk drawers.  And finally, finally, get to those things you collect:  books, music, dvds/games, artwork, old photos, etc.

Now, I have to disagree with Marie Kondo on some things.  She would drastically pare down books and music cds.  I have learned that to discard too ruthlessly in these categories is to regret the loss.

The same with old photos.  My mother started pursuing genealogy in the 1970s.  Those old photos are important.  They help us remember people.  Times.  Events.

They are a record of the past.  Do we need to erase the past?  No!

But some of these “collections” do have JUNK in them.  They are stuff.  So when you de-clutter here, do so with a careful hand.

Part of the reason we accumulate stuff and junk is a lack of time to sort.  We conquer that problem by devoting a day to cleaning out winter coats or our music collection or all the plastic that falls out when we open a kitchen cabinet door.

When you see the whole accumulated–all the jackets, all the music cds, all the Tupperware or Hefty bowls or plastic lids that fit nothing–you see the wealth of what you have (or dearth, depending on how you look at it).

If you like none of it, discard all of it and make a conscious decision to replace non-joy with a possession that is real-joy.

Insight 5.

Marie Kondo advises that we  “hold an item with both hands and ask yourself, ‘Does this spark joy?’”

Eye roll, please.  I mean, holding something in front of me and asking “Ya got joy in ya?”  People would know I was crazy (instead of just thinking it).

When we hold something with both hands, we focus our complete attention on it.  With items (not with people), once we focus our attention, our brain clicks through want and need and then to a recognition of how we feel.  Once we recognize that, we can make our decision.

Insight 6.

Little things, useless things, damaged things:  we have no trouble tossing these.  It’s the things attached to memories or given by loved ones that create problems.  Guilt at discarding what someone gave us makes us hold on to a china bowl we don’t like or a sweater that a favorite aunt gave to us yet we never wear it or artwork that’s not our taste.

Marie Kondo’s question is key:  “Does this spark joy?”  If all we feel is guilt when we see that thing we don’t want, then it’s not sparking joy.

Thank the object (yes, she advises that) for the thought behind it, for the intended purpose, and for its time with you.  Then donate it for others who may love it.

Insight 7.

“Don’t hold onto things for fear of the future” and “Don’t hold onto things to preserve the past.”

Can things protect us from future worries?  Well, money in the bank can.  That’s not in the house, though, is it?  What else can protect us from future worries?  Keep insurance policies and anything the IRS might audit, anything you might possibly need that’s associated with work.

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Marie Kondo displays her methods

And if you’ve got a black sheep relative, keep what might keep them out of the house.

“Things that preserve the past” is a tougher comment from Kondo.  Here’s where I run into trouble.  Here’s my solution.  I hope I can abide by it.  Keep out three small things that remind me of loved ones.

Three because one might get broken or damaged.  Small so the items are portable in case of emergency.

As for the rest, hold only onto things that give you happiness.  And gift the rest away.

Insight 8.

“Tidying is just a tool, not the final destination.  The true goal should be to establish the lifestyle you want most once your house has been put in order.”

See, again, it’s the life we want.  We sometimes blame other people when we’re feeling crammed and out of sorts.  Could it be that our desperate use of shopping for more and more is only crowding and cramming our lives?  Once we look at what we have and truly see it, we may realize that we have enough things.

The root of our problem then becomes clear:  things matter not at all.  People matter.  Relationships need to be deepened.

And just because you go shopping with your friends doesn’t mean that you have to buy something.

Insight 9.

“We should be choosing what we want to keep, not what we want to get rid of.”

Kondo’s point here is very important.  Our sorting and discarding is based on a positive, not a negative:  what we want to keep.

Don’t look at what is leaving.  That big piles that goes out with the trash or goes into a sack for donation is not giving you joy.  Feel no guilt for the money spent, but do vow not to spend money needlessly.  You now know your possessions;  you know what you have and what you need to replace.

So many things in life don’t give joy.  We need to surround ourselves with those things that “spark joy”, as Kondo says.  When we look at a possession, we should smile.

Because that person who doesn’t make us smile is vastly harder to discard.

Insight 10 is not Marie Kondo But It’s the most Important
Underhill understood that God gives joy.
Evelyn Underhill at her desk

“We mostly spend our lives conjugating three verbs:  to Want, to Have, and to Do.  Craving, clutching, and fussing, . . . we are kept in perpetual unrest: forgetting that none of these verbs have any ultimate significance, except so far as they are transcended by and included in, the fundamental verb, to Be: and that Being, not wanting, not having and not doing, is the essence of a spiritual life.”  Evelyn Underhill

Start now discarding what doesn’t give you joy, what doesn’t help on your journey to Be the person God intended you to be.

Marie Kondo can help.

Recommended: Gift from the Sea

W.Ink Recommends > Anne Morrow Lindbergh’s Gift from the Sea

Recommended: Deep philosophy in simple yet elegant language, AML offers to us the important aspects of life:  not money, not schedules, not harried miscommunication.  Instead, living in the present, loving others more than possessions, taking time for silence and communication:  these are what matters.

Revealed through shells gathered on the beach, AML explores each shell as it represents our lives and reminds us to be grateful for what life offers.

Snippets from the book:

The Beach

Rollers on the beach, wind in the pines, the slow flapping of herons across sand dunes, drown out the hectic schedules of city and suburbs, timetables and schedules.  One falls under their spell, relaxes, stretches out prone.  One becomes, in fact, like the element on which one lies flattened by the sea:  bare, open, empty as the beach, erased by today’s tides of all yesterday’s scribblings. (16)

Channeled Whelk

I want first of all . . . to be at peace with myself.  I want a singleness of eye, a purity of intention, a central core to my life that will enable me to carry these obligations (husband, family, home, work, friends & community). (page 23)

Grace: an inner harmony, essentially spiritual, which can be translated into outward harmony.  I am seeking perhaps what Socrates asked for in the prayer from the Phaedrus when he said, “May the outward and inward man be at one.” (page 23)

Moon Shell

Now, instead of planting our solitude with our own dream blossoms, we choke the spaces with continuous music, matter, and companionship to which we do not even listen.  It is simply there to fill the vacuum.  When the noise stops, there is no inner music to take its place.  We must re-learn to be alone. (page 42)

When one is a stranger to oneself, then one is estranged from others, too. (page 44)

Solitude, says the moon shell.  Every person, especially every woman, should be alone sometime during the year, some part of each week, and each day. . . . [T]hese are among the most important times in one’s life—when one is alone. (page 49-50)

Double Sunrise

For the first part of every relationship is pure, whether it be with friend or lover, husband or child.  It is pure, simple, and unencumbered. . . .  And then how swiftly, how inevitably the perfect unity is invaded:  the relationship changes;  it becomes complicated, encumbered by its contact with the world . . . [and] somehow we mistakenly feel that failure to maintain its exact original pattern is tragedy. (65-66)

In a growing relationship, however, the original essence is not lost but merely buried under the impedimentia of life.  The core of reality is still there, and needs only to be uncovered and re-affirmed. (69-70)

Oyster Bed

I am very fond of the oyster’s shell.  It is horrid and awkward and ugly.  It is slate-colored and unsymmetrical.  Its form is not primarily beautiful but functional.  I make fun of its knobbiness.  Sometimes I resent its burdens and excrescences.  But its timeless adaptability and tenacity draw my astonished admiration and sometimes even my tears. (83)

Instead of facing them (difficult seasons of life or work, relationships or health), one runs away;  one escapes—into depressions, nervous breakdowns, drink, love affairs, or frantic, thoughtless, fruitless overwork.  Anything, rather than face them.  Anything, rather than stand still and learn from them.  One tries to cure the signs of growth, to exorcise them, as if they were devils, when really they might be angels of annunciation. (87-88)

Argonauta (Paper Nautilus)

Saint Exupéry: “The life of the spirit, the veritable life, is intermittent and only the life of the mind is constant. . . .  The spirit . . . alternates between total vision and absolute blindness. . . .  Here is a man who loves music—but there are moments when it cannot reach him.” (107-108)

We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity—in freedom. (108)

The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping even.  Security in a relationship lies . . . in living in the present and accepting it as it is now. . . .  One must accept the security of the wingéd life, of ebb and flow, of intermittency. (109)

A Few Shells

Here (on this island) there is time:  time to be quiet;  time to work without pressure;  time to think. . . time to look at stars or to study a shell;  time to see friends, to gossip, to laugh, to talk.  Time, even, not to talk. . . .  Then communication becomes communion, and one is nourished as one never is by words.  (116)

The Beach at my Back

If we stop to think about it, are not the real casualties in modern life just these centers:  the here, the now, the individual and his relationships.  The present is passed over in the race for the future;  the here is neglected in favor of the there, and the individual is dwarfed by the enormity of the mass. (126)

Family, now, here:  “The basic substance of life . . . .  We may neglect these elements, but we cannot dispense with them.  They are the drops that make up the streams.  They are the essence of life itself.”  (127-128)

Gift from the Sea Re-Opened

It takes time to find the re-center of gravity. (134)

Much of this exploration and new awareness is uncomfortable and painful for both men and women.  Growth in awareness has always been painful.  But it does lead to greater independence and, eventually, cooperation in action. (138)

Available here.

We recommend a slow read, one chapter a week.  This tiny book is packed with concept that must be mulled over, considered, then applied to our lives.